Helping With Relationship Breakups
When it comes to Counselling and Relationship Breakups, one size definitely does not fit all. Some couples come in to rekindle thei....
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Couples and Relationship Counselling
Working With Your Relationships
I provide Relationship Counselling and Couples Counselling, help, support and guidance for your relationship struggles. I offer a therapeutic environment for couples and individuals who are wishing to create better relationships for themselves and others in their lives. This promotes the opportunity to speak openly and candidly without judgement or bias, fostering honesty and a deeper connection to self and others.
I provide help for your relationship struggles, even for relationship break-ups. I offer therapy for couples and individuals who are wishing to create better relationships for themselves and for others in their lives. Relationship counselling sessions will be honed towards each individual’s personal development with the aim of creating a clearer and more rounded basis for the relationship to build on.
I would usually work with couples on an individual basis first of all, and then begin couples therapy. This means that each session will be honed towards each individual’s personal development with the aim of creating a clearer and more rounded basis for the couples sessions to begin. However, these are your counselling sessions and am willing to discuss options of therapy and how we work together.
My relationship therapy can help with couples dealing with communication issues, addiction, infidelity, grief and loss, separation, divorce, along with work-stress and family issues. I also act as impartial witness to help with domestic conflict.
More and more couples are looking to relationship counselling to seek resolution for their problems. I will endeavour to work with you, providing you the tools to learn positive strategies for personal and mutual growth.
If couples wish to have individual counselling sessions this can be arranged.
Book an Appointment
I have many years experience as a Counsellor and Psychotherapist and am truly focused on my work with and for 'others.
I offer Individual, Marriage, Couples and Relationship Counselling. My counselling sessions are available on a first come first served basis.
Read more about me and my background here.
Couples & Relationships
Having relationship counselling / couples counselling can help resolve issues that people may not have been able to manage effectively on their own. The therapeutic process enables couples to get a better understanding of each other, and to decide together if any changes in the relationship need to be made.
I would advice all clients to build a list of conversations they want to have before coming into couples counselling, having clear direction of subjects is crucial in these very tough relationship sessions.
Choosing the right relationship counsellor for you is important. Because of this I offer a free initial 15 minute telephone consultation with no obligation or commitment book any further sessions. This will give you the chance to see if you feel comfortable with me and the way that I work.
Couple counselling results in clearer communication, so you can make informed choices, possibly to heal the relationship, or even bring the relationship to a healthy end.
Cathy Stones Counselling in Lincoln and in Louth
“I love him, but I’m not in love with him anymore.”
“We used to be best friends. . .”
“We’re more like brother and sister than husband and wife.”
“We just don’t talk anymore — about anything.”
Main Issues In Couples And Relationships
There are several main issues that can arise in couples therapy, including:
Communication problems: Communication issues are a common challenge in relationships. Couples may struggle to express their thoughts and emotions effectively, or may find it difficult to listen and understand their partner's perspective. This can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and feelings of frustration and isolation.
Trust and infidelity: Trust is a fundamental aspect of any relationship. When trust is broken due to infidelity or other breaches of trust, it can be difficult to repair. Couples therapy can help partners work through the feelings of betrayal, rebuild trust, and develop strategies for preventing similar issues in the future.
Conflict resolution: Conflicts are inevitable in any relationship, but how couples deal with them can make a big difference. Couples may struggle to resolve conflicts in a healthy and constructive manner, which can lead to ongoing tension and resentment.
Differences in values or lifestyles: Couples may have different values, interests, or lifestyles that can cause friction in the relationship. These differences may include differences in religion, political beliefs, or priorities around work, family, and leisure time.
Sexual problems: Couples may experience difficulties with sexual intimacy, such as differences in sexual desire, performance anxiety, or difficulty communicating about sexual needs and preferences.
Parenting and family issues: Couples who have children may experience challenges related to parenting, such as differences in parenting styles or disagreements about how to raise children. Other family issues, such as conflicts with in-laws, can also create tension in the relationship.
Overall, couples therapy can help partners address these and other issues by providing a safe and supportive space for them to communicate, work through challenges, and develop strategies for strengthening their relationship.
The quality of our lives depends on the quality of our relationships
As a counsellor I facilitate your own learning, increased awareness and understanding of yourself and the contexts you are in.
Helping you to reconnect to who you are and you are meant to be.
Some of the more presenting issues I work with:
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Relationships problems
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Marriage and reconnection
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Bereavement
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Anxiety, Stress or Depression
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IVF
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Confidence/self esteem issues
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Loneliness
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Addictions
A safe, supportive and confidential setting where you can:
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Explore thoughts, feelings experiences.
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Learn new ways to deal with conflict, stress, anxiety in relationships.
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Work on confidence and self esteem.
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Work towards greater choice.
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Reconnect with who you are and live a more fulfilling and positive life.
Starting Counselling
Taking the decision to start the process of Individual or Couple and Relationship Counselling with a therapist is a significant choice and moment.
It might feel both empowering and daunting at the same time. However, we can discuss this and find a way to conduct the first session in a way that suits you.
Initial appointment
On our initial appointment we will focus on the issues and challenges that you are experiencing and discuss how to take things forward from there.
This first consultation gives you an opportunity to ask what you need to know regarding the counselling process.
Cathy Stones
The positives that can be gained from couples therapy and relationship counselling are not just for people in life transitions and crisis. Therapy is also for those looking at their own self realisation, fulfilment and development.
I provide a secure, private and independent space where I can help you to develop awareness and understanding to take a more expansive view of life.
Relationship Techniques
Relationship Common Practices
Reflective listening is a skill in couples counselling that proves to be beneficial for each individual wanting to work on their communication skills. By listening and being in a therapeutic environment where each person gives the other partner an opportunity to speak freely, communication can be greatly enhanced.
Communication Skills; Rephrasing our statements using “I” phrases instead of “you” statements, conversations can be more productive, empowering and responsible for ‘self’.
As an example; “you hurt my feelings when you shout at me,” is a blaming statement. Perhaps you could express your emotions more responsibly by saying “I feel hurt when you shout.”
Gratitude is an effective way to enhance your mood and helps to keep a balance of perspective. By regularly expressing gratitude with your partner, and openly sharing the things you’re grateful for in them, you can begin to create a bond that’s built on trust, appreciation, and mutual respect.
Setting boundaries is a key objective in relationship counselling (couples counselling). By setting clear boundaries communication can start to build. With no boundaries to help guide difficult conversations it is likely that an argument will ensue. Try setting some simple boundaries such as no shouting, no talking over each other, listening and speaking about one subject at a time is crucial to clearing the air.
If you would like to read more on what you will learn in Couples Counselling please get in touch.
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